Health Clinician Talks About Valentine's Day Blues
With Valentine’s Day’s coming, lots of people are in a sweet mood. However, not everybody enjoys this holiday. According to Lisa Langston, a mental health clinician at Missouri State University’s Counseling Center, people have holiday blues because of their expectations and memories. KSMU’s Xiaowen Tan reports.
Langston says different people will have different kinds of sadness depending on what’s causing them to feel sad. Sometimes not only singles, but also people who have partners will feel disappointed because of their past experiences.
“If it’s the fact that they don’t have a partner and they wish they did, that might cause them to do one thing. But if it’s more because that they had bad experiences in past Valentine’s Days, they might do something different,” she said.
And due to different people’s holiday sadness, there are also different suggestions for those people. According to Langston, those who just wish they had a partner should do a hobby or activity they enjoy. And as for those who had bad experiences before, Langston says they can write a little about the past experience, and remind themselves that’s the past and they are living in the present. Langston suggests some examples.
“One idea might be to try to find a group of friends to go out with, planning an evening with the guys or the girls or just a mixed group, and go out and have a good time or stay in and watch a movie,” she said.
Langston says people will have holiday blues because they have high expectations.
“Certainly a lot of times we do have higher expectations for holidays. We think we should feel good and happy on holidays. And the reality is holidays are just part of our regular life. Probably we will feel a mixed feeling on holidays just like we do all the other days,” she said.
For those people who still have sadness after trying those suggestions, Langston says it’s perfectly acceptable to go find a trusted counselor to share their troubles.
For KSMU news, I’m Xiaowen Tan.